The most challenging part of being a single parent is helping your kids cope with the changes around the house. It may not be the most comfortable thing to do as you are adjusting on the new home setup, but you have to be there during this time. Here are some helpful advices when facing this kind of situation:
Start living normally right away
While you may be grieving inside, it would be best for you and your kids to start living a normal life again. Keeping the state of sorrow and sadness is like adding wood to the fire. Extinguish bad emotions and memories by doing things you and your kids enjoy. The sooner you realize that regrets will not help, the better you will see the life ahead.
Take the pressure off of your children
How to keep your kids happy and optimistic despite what has happened is not the easiest thing to do. They keep the pain and in most cases, they blame themselves for what has happened. Instead of asking them for emotional support, be the one who will stand up and embrace them with love and care. Reassure them that it is not their fault. The world certainly does not end when you become a single parent. Keep your head up, be strong in front of your kids, and take care of them in the best way you can.
Let your kids see hope in you
Your kids will always turn to when they feel weak and need to find strength. Be the model that they are looking for. Let your kids know that there is a bright future ahead for them by being their hope. Wear positive attitude even if it is hard. Remember that they don’t have anyone to turn to but you.
Help your kids to process what they feel
One of the effects to children of shifting from a two-parent home to a single-parent home is grief. Expect your kids to grieve for the loss of their other parent as well as for the loss of everyday interaction with both parents at the same time. Recognize their need to experience various stages of grief. This may mean giving them time to process their feeling alone and times when they want to talk with you about what they are going through.